A year-long cauldron of support to stoke your fire and restore pleasure to motherhood.
Mother Fire:
To all the mothers:
you can’t do it all.
None of us can.
And the fear of letting go of what has “always made you you” - your capacity to keep it going, to keep all the balls in the air, to give and give and give - has got you in a choke hold.
Because what would people think if you said no? Where would you end up if you held clear boundaries and communicated exactly what you needed? Wouldn’t some part of you / your life implode if you got off the hamster wheel?
Who knows?!
But what’s slowly imploding for you while you grind it out on said hamster wheel?
Where are you stuck because there are no clear boundaries, or even a sense of what you truly need?
What do YOU think about yourself?
What is stagnating while your mind endlessly spins?
Caregiving is not inherently draining, but when it doesn’t include you, it absolutely is.
It is vital that those of us who are currently over-giving, over-functioning, and over-burdened turn toward that ignition switch inside - pleasure, inspiration, connection - and fan the flame until the only thing we have to DO in our home is BE who we are.
This is why I created Mother Fire, a year-long cauldron of support for mothers who want to get out of their heads and into the flesh and bones of their life; who want to shift from over-functioning to creating, and to restore pleasure to motherhood
The way to have more time is to take time.
The way to have more energy is to decide that your wellbeing is more important than performing for other people’s comfort.
The only way to stand strong in your parenting and feel turned on by your partnership simultaneously is to root into your body and protect that relationship to yourself with fierce love.
Currently in our culture, there are a few methods that claim to do this, and most of them include DOING more.
A therapist will give you empathy and perhaps a list of things to try, or even a script to express your needs, but what they won’t give you is a visceral root into your power or reliable daily access to your pleasure in the life and partnership you already have.
This transformation is not a cognitive process, it is nervous system repatterning.
It is visceral and organic and it cannot be faked.
Testimonials
“I found Stacey through a trusted referral system in a time of deep distress after becoming a new mother for the first time. I felt that I had died and was in need of resuscitation. After our first session, I experienced a deep sense in my body I hadn't felt in years... relief.”
— Amy“This course is a validation of all the messy feelings that engaged motherhood brings up, and it's also a map that helps a woman navigate the dark forest of those feelings without judgment but plenty of light.”
— Stefanie“I wish I had this work when my kids were younger and think it should be *required* for any mother dealing with rage. I use some of the tools on a daily basis and it has helped to rewire my nervous system.”
— KateWhat is Mother Fire?
A year-long group program
You commit to meeting via Zoom for 75mins on Wednesdays from 10-11:15am Pacific three weeks of each month. One hour, once a week, for YOU.
Somatics, movement, and expressive arts.
You are learning the skills to reconfigure your nervous system, and cultivate your sense of play, community, and of belonging exactly where and as you are.
A movement of mothers re-writing the story of power, pleasure, and agency in motherhood.
Every time you show up in the circle, you re-affirm your place in it while becoming a beacon of possibility for all mothers.
$2400 for the year, or twelve payments of $200.
Pay in full and receive two 45min 1:1 sessions with me!
Hi, I’m Stacey, and I’m living proof that you go from burnout and feeling invisible inside motherhood, to vibrant, fulfilled, and centered inside your life.
After 11 years working in the field of somatic coaching, sex education, and birth work, I’ve learned that the most important thing about finding balance and satisfaction in motherhood isn’t acceptance or bio-hacking or becoming a completely different kind of person.
It’s learning to follow the spark of your excitement and deep desire - and protect those things like your life depends on them. Because it does.
Because the only one giving you the short end of the stick is you.
Because motherhood is not as much about your children as it is about you.
And real talk?
Because if you don’t ever communicate the limits and boundaries of your generosity, the world will continue to take.
My clients have:
Emerged from despair and chaos into joy and pleasure.
Radically altered our relationships from obligation, resentment, and frustration, to collaboration and a shared vision for mutual thriving.
Moved from isolation, exhaustion, and mom guilt into consistency and community and inspiration.
The women I work with have found the courage to BE themselves and mother from that center
because they have taken the time for it.
Mother is the foundation of all, she is the energy that holds, nurtures, and enlivens.
It’s not enough that there’s an industry of providers helping mothers “get by” or “get through this time.”
Motherhood is the initiation of a profound maturation and refinement of a woman’s life force energy.
That power comes first through granting yourself the dignity to be where you are, how you are. You can only gain traction by engaging with what’s right in front of you (or inside you,) and that’s where we begin. I begin with the assumption that nothing is inherently right or wrong in your experience, so there’s no moralizing or striving and definitely no comparison (to past you or anyone else.)
If mothers truly knew and honored and cultivated their inherent power, if there was a cultural center and context for maternal flourishing, we wouldn’t need constant physical and mental interventions, nor would we exist in a state of psychic and creative limbo.
That center and context is here, inside the Mother Fire. I can show you. I have done it, and my clients have done it.
Testimonials
“For me, it made a big difference to know that there is a space and time once a week which is dedicated just for me and where I come together with other mothers. And that there is a person (Stacey) who is holding this space so gracefully and professionally. With a lot of love and guidance. This made me feel more stable and held during the container. Even though I could rarely join entire sessions because of the time difference, I took away a lot. Especially the importance of small somatic practices on a daily level (orienting inside and out!). And the teaching that Our bodies and needs are sacred. Thank you Stacey!”
— Mel“It was actually really hard (though not in a harmful way at all, just challenging in a surprising way) for me to be in the group space--I encountered a lot of jealousy/envy of people's time/space which is very closely tied to this specific bundle of grief for me. But being in a space where the messy parts don't need to be euphemized/sanitized felt very comfortable and rare. I really appreciated your teaching and the container for processing my experiences.”
— Margo“The experience of practicing being with myself in the group helped me do that in my life when the class was not happening. Stacey held firm self-compassion and self-responsibility that felt so empowering and true. I felt welcome to be my real self- the petty and profound. I feel validated to reach for and care for my wild self. Learning and trusting that asking for help when I feel most like a victim helps to melt that freeze and overwhelm was huge for me. Stacey was such a grounded, bright, authentic guide- I could feel these qualities grow in me.”
— MichelleCurriculum
Every season, we will investigate a new topic relevant to your motherhood:
Spring: Partnership and boundaries.
Summer: Sexuality, desire, and getting the sex you want.
Fall: Deep nourishment and vitality in body, mind, and spirit.
Winter: Creativity, personal mythology, and the shadow.
Inside each season’s focus, we will explore what it means to mother AND be in partnership; AND be sexual; AND nourish ourselves deeply; AND experience grief, rage, and soul work.
Our method of exploration will follow a consistent four-step pattern in order to allow for emergent teaching and individualized transformation.
Activating deep inner knowing.
This is the week that I teach and we dialogue together. Get under intellectualizing and analysis. Skill-share and cultivate compassion in circle with other mothers. Become an expert in tracking your own cycles of activation inside topics that may scare you and learn to transcend fear for curiosity.
Mobilizing stagnation.
This is the week where we MOVE. It is not our limits and boundaries that are the problem in our relationships, it is stagnancy. The mind is fickle and will double down on old beliefs to “keep you safe,” but your body is the place where YES and NO, STOP and GO live in a way that translates to effective communication and a felt sense of agency. We develop the ability to author our own lives when our bodies are awake and mobilized.
Putting it into play.
This is the week where you get 1:1 coaching from me. This is where we get specific - what do these lessons mean to YOU, how are these concepts manifesting in YOUR marriage / sex life / food patterns / emotional body? Week three is where we embody the transformational fire and shine for one another. Your learning is the group’s teaching. Your courage is the group’s courage.
Integration.
This is when we rest and digest. For one or two weeks (depending on the month) you will steep in the experience of the previous three weeks, implementing daily doses of curiosity, play, and creative action steps on behalf of your inner fire. There will be a private Signal chat for anyone who wishes to participate.